What Are the Top Ten Things You Can Do to Feel Hot AND SEXY?

suit and tie

It is exceedingly healthy for each of us to be comfortable in our bodies.  It is fun to appreciate how our bodies look.  It is a joy to know ourselves as attractive to other people.  

A few years ago, a good friend suggested that I begin to tell myself, “I am Hot AND Sexy.”  At the time, this seemed profoundly funny to me.

But also unfathomable.  I had spent a lifetime thinking of myself as ugly, blah, blah, ungraceful, blah, blah and disabled, blah, blah.

Anything but Hot AND Sexy.

Do you ever feed yourself a whole bunch of negative self-talk like I did?

It is like eating your least favorite meal over and over again.

Sometimes, I found pain in how I imagined myself.  But most of the time I just felt numb to my self-image.  I felt like how I thought of my body wouldn’t change, so I simply resigned myself to feeling unattractive.

Now a few years later for the first time in my life, I feel, well, Hot AND Sexy.

Teaching myself to embody Hot AND Sexy has been daily work for me.

Here are some of the things that have helped:

  1. Smiling more
  2. Laughing more
  3. Making more small talk
  4. Taking the time to buy clothes I feel good in
  5. Highlighting my hair (One of my stylists calls this “Manlights”)
  6. Creating- writing Facebook posts, journaling, writing blogs
  7. Keeping my apartment clean (most of the time)
  8. Keeping my car clean (most of the the time)
  9. Wearing shorts more
  10. Going to yoga classes everyday

These are ten of the things that helped me feel Hot AND Sexy.  They are fairly simple.  The most important thing has been to do them consistently.

What is on your Top Ten Ways to Feel Hot AND Sexy List?

Have fun making the list!  Have a blast doing the things on the list!

And most importantly declare to yourself and the world,

I Am Hot AND Sexy!!!

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind motivational inspirational speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions and has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  Jason knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message and event speaker topics (employee motivation, team building skills, overcoming adversity and more) or to book him as a conference speaker for your organization, go to http://heroicyesproductions.com/speaking-keynotes/.

Jason is a gifted school speaker and motivational youth speaker.  His inspiring presentation has moved many to tears and always leaves his audiences feeling uplifted and motivated to take action in their lives.

 

An Important Conclusion

Do You Know Blue Bunny Ice Cream?

In this Friday One Minute of Excitement video, Jason and Ina come to a valuable conclusion.

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind motivational inspirational speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions and has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  Jason knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message and event speaker topics (employee motivation, team building skills, overcoming adversity and more) or to book him as a conference speaker for your organization, go to http://heroicyesproductions.com/speaking-keynotes/.

Jason is a gifted school speaker and motivational youth speaker.  His inspiring presentation has moved many to tears and always leaves his audiences feeling uplifted and motivated to take action in their lives.

 

Remembering To Eat

tuna sandwich

Your dreams for your future are so good.  They give you direction, passion for life and hope for a grander tomorrow.

Yet, it is also so important to be nourished by what is happening in your daily life.

We may dream of eating a five course meal at the fanciest restaurant in the world someday, but a simple apple and a tuna fish sandwich will nourish us today. 

I emphasize this because I find that it is easy to get caught-up in thinking, “I’ll be happy, relaxed, fulfilled, nourished, joyful, able to laugh WHEN I achieve….(fill in your dream here.)”

I’m very much into yoga, meditation and savoring the moment, yet I still often find myself thinking in this way.

When we think in this way, we can end up becoming really hungry because we don’t remember to feast on the day that is before us.

I came up with a silly example to illustrate what I mean.

Say a guy named Matt declares, “I’m not going to let another morsel of food touch my lips until I can afford to feast on that five course meal.”

As the days go by, Matt becomes ravenously hungry.

Finally on day five of not eating a morsel, Matt is telling someone his dream of feasting on a five course meal.  They take pity on him and give him the money he needs to fulfill this dream.

Sitting in the restaurant awaiting his meal, Matt is so hungry that he orders the instant the waiter brings him a glass of water, barely even glancing at the menu.

Then all he can do is stare at that kitchen door fixated on the waiter bringing out his food as fast as possible.  Matt notices only his hunger, nothing else, not the tremendous artwork on the walls, not how comfortable the chairs are, not how beautifully the other patrons are dressed.

He just wants to eat and eat now.  The first course is the most delicious appetizer imaginable.  It is World Famous.  Matt has read about it in the food reviews for years.  But when it comes all Matt can think is, “I can’t get this in my mouth fast enough,” as he downs this much sought after delicacy in under a minute.

Later, friends would ask him how the first course at the legendary restaurant tasted.  Matt would shake his head kind of ashamed and say, “I frankly have no idea.  I was so hungry, starved really, that I ate it too fast to taste much of anything.”

To savor the taste of our dreams when they come true, we need to already be reasonably nourished by our daily life.

So remember to feast from the goodness of each day!  

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind motivational inspirational speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions and has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  Jason knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message and event speaker topics (employee motivation, team building skills, overcoming adversity and more) or to book him as a conference speaker for your organization, go to http://heroicyesproductions.com/speaking-keynotes/.

Jason is a gifted school speaker and motivational youth speaker.  His inspiring presentation has moved many to tears and always leaves his audiences feeling uplifted and motivated to take action in their lives.

 

Public Service Announcement

Jason Has a Very Important Message For You

In this Friday One Minute of Excitement video, Jason speaks about public garbage cans.  This is important.  Please listen.

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind motivational inspirational speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions and has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  Jason knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message and event speaker topics (employee motivation, team building skills, overcoming adversity and more) or to book him as a conference speaker for your organization, go to http://heroicyesproductions.com/speaking-keynotes/.

Jason is a gifted school speaker and motivational youth speaker.  His inspiring presentation has moved many to tears and always leaves his audiences feeling uplifted and motivated to take action in their lives.

 

The Surprise of My Own Breath

breath

We ask, “As individuals are we enough to change the world?”  After much stress and struggle, I have come to believe that the answer to this fundamental question is as close, intimate, and universal as our breath.

Breath seems so simple, typical and mundane.

Before I began taking yoga classes to improve my flexibility, I never imagined that the discipline of yoga would lead to the discovery of personal tranquility and the creation of peace around me, let alone that it would be the pathway to rediscovering the power of my own breath.

When I was in junior high, I longed to be the person who was instrumental in crafting a way for the world to be at peace.  But I had a few problems.   I was just an adolescent, and moreover I was an adolescent with a disability.

In my haste to be born, I made my entry into the world a few weeks early and startled my folks in the middle of the night.  In the process of this unexpected occurrence, my umbilical cord kinked like a garden hose and I lost some oxygen.  As the result, I developed a pronounced speech impediment and a few coordination deficits.  Now, I see that these were just circumstances, opportunities around which I could create an exciting and productive life.  But in my youth, they appeared to be severe limitations, which meant I would be able to do little that would have a meaningful impact on world. I hadn’t yet recognized that great world leaders like Gandhi didn’t act as lone wolves.  Now I realize that their skill and gift to the planet was to inspire the community around them to make a stand for significant change.

For most of my life, I chose to believe that I had no business in a gym because of my disability.  However, I was encouraged to try yoga.  So in January of 2009, I walked into the Sioux Falls, SD YMCA with some hesitation and signed up for a monthly membership.  I believed at the time that the main benefit of yoga would be to improve my physical flexibility.

If you look at pictures of people doing yoga, you see images of them stretching in different poses.  From studying these pictures, you might conclude that practicing yoga helps people to touch their toes.

I learned yoga does much more.  The key to understanding how yoga impacted me, how it impacts my fellow students and how it has a peaceful influence upon the world is far less noticeable even than touching ones toes.  It is as simple as something we all do every minute of every day.   The secret is consciously paying attention to and working with ones breath, and through this exercise consciously entering into the commonality of breath that connects every person on the planet.

Before beginning yoga, I experienced a fairly high level of anxiety on a daily basis. I would often act in ways to reduce my anxiety, either by choosing to flee situations that were causing me stress or by attempting to control them.  I found that neither approach left the people around me feeling especially peaceful.

Moreover, from the vantage point of experiencing a great deal of stress, my disability looked like an enormous threat which I either needed to deny or manipulate.  In the midst of this personal struggle, I never stopped to imagine that I was the one who was making my physical circumstances into a disability.

I assumed that both my anxiety and my physical limitations were just part of life and became resigned to them.  I had no idea that my habit of breathing unconsciously and shallowly was related to my level of stress, or that my habitual breathing patterns were constricting my potential the way a dam constricts the water behind it.

In yoga class, I gradually noticed that cultivating a consistent deep breath changed both how I felt and how I viewed the world.

Attending countless yoga classes has taught me to become conscious of my breath and to subsequently develop the skill of breathing deeply on a consistent basis.  Now that I have a practical method to relax and create peace within myself, I have discovered that the physical circumstances of my speech impediment and minor coordination issues are, in fact, one of my greatest gifts.   These circumstances allow me to connect with a wide variety of people in a significant and meaningful way.  Before I began yoga, the possibility of giving a speech was an occasion I avoided.   Now I seek out opportunities to speak to audiences about journeying from limitations to achieving extraordinary results.

Gandhi famously said, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world. ”   When I was a youth, I thought this change had to be something complex and gigantic, but what I have found is that this change can be far simpler, as simple as a deep breath.  This breath cascades through us with a magnificence of a waterfall, connecting us to every other person on the planet and gifts us, moment by moment, with the opportunity to be the change we wish to see.

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind motivational inspirational speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions and has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  Jason knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message and event speaker topics (employee motivation, team building skills, overcoming adversity and more) or to book him as a conference speaker for your organization, go to http://heroicyesproductions.com/speaking-keynotes/.

Jason is a gifted school speaker and motivational youth speaker.  His inspiring presentation has moved many to tears and always leaves his audiences feeling uplifted and motivated to take action in their lives.

Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone

What if You Take Steps Outside Your Front Door?

In this Friday One Minute of Excitement video, Jason talks about getting out of your daily routine and familiar spaces.  It’s easy to just draw the curtains and stay where we are.  If we get ourselves inspired we can take steps and gain momentum and then we are in a whole different world.  Take a look at how expansive your world can be, just right outside your front door, right outside of your comfort zone.

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind motivational inspirational speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions and has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  Jason knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message and event speaker topics (employee motivation, team building skills, overcoming adversity and more) or to book him as a conference speaker for your organization, go to http://heroicyesproductions.com/speaking-keynotes/.

Jason is a gifted school speaker and motivational youth speaker.  His inspiring presentation has moved many to tears and always leaves his audiences feeling uplifted and motivated to take action in their lives.

 

Turning Our Least Favorite Things Into Opportunities For Happiness

Siri

Sometimes, our least favorite things can be an opportunity for humor and even downright fun.

For example, I have a pronounced speech impediment as a result of a birth injury.  One of the unusual things about having a speech impediment is that sometimes I get so used to it I forget I have it.

That is until I hear a recording of my own voice.  Then it is, yet again, very clear to me that I do indeed have a speech impediment.  I remember as a little kid anytime I heard a recording of my voice, I would cringe because it was apparent to me how different I sounded from other people and I equated “different” with “not good.”

So one of my LEAST favorite things became listening to the sound of my voice played back to me.

Then a few months ago, I upgraded to an iPhone.  One of the features of an iPhone is that it has voice recognition software called “Siri.”  Siri speaks in a female voice that is very clear, deliberate and precise.

Recently, my friend Kris encouraged me to attempt to use Siri.  He said that Siri makes texting much faster.

I have always assumed that voice recognition software and my voice wouldn’t get along very well, so I have avoided this technology like I avoid bee hives.  However, this time the idea of faster texting lured me in.

Since that conversation, Siri and I have been slowly getting to know each other and the results have often been downright hilarious.

For instance, when I asked Siri, “Siri, what should I write in this blog?”

Siri typed my question as she heard it, “What should BaileyAna sponsoring.”

To me, I spoke clearly.  But Siri heard, “BaileyAna sponsoring.”

Siri is not making fun of me, just calling it exactly as she sees it.

For kicks, I just asked “Siri, do you want a rutabaga?”  She typed, “Silkyrider rutabaga.”

I could be devastated by this reflection of my voice and choose to avoid Siri like I avoid skydiving.  In the past, I would have done this by convincing myself that Siri is just evidence that the world is getting too advanced for its own good.  I would have felt righteous and skirted “a crazy, new technology.”

But I’ve decided to give Siri a chance.

The more I talk to Siri the more I think she might be just the speech therapist I need at this point in my life.  When I speak to her, Siri is not considering my facial expressions.  She isn’t considering the context around my words.  She is just typing exactly what she hears me say.  From this exact reflection, I can practice speaking in a way that is more understandable to Siri.

In just a few weeks time, I’ve already learned to speak so that Siri understands much more of what I say than she used to.  And when she doesn’t understand, the results are simply cause for laughter.

Do you have any Siri’s in your life, who are just waiting to help you have fun and heal?

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind motivational inspirational speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions and has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  Jason knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message and event speaker topics (employee motivation, team building skills, overcoming adversity and more) or to book him as a conference speaker for your organization, go to http://heroicyesproductions.com/speaking-keynotes/.

Jason is a gifted school speaker and motivational youth speaker.  His inspiring presentation has moved many to tears and always leaves his audiences feeling uplifted and motivated to take action in their lives.

How Much Should You Charge?

What Am I Worth?

In this Friday One Minute of Excitement video, Jason speaks about declaring what we are worth.  We have an obligation to ourselves and to our clients to declare what we are worth.  Our customers want services that they deem are valuable.  We have services that are valuable.  We do ourselves a service by declaring what we are worth.

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind motivational inspirational speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions and has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  Jason knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message and event speaker topics (employee motivation, team building skills, overcoming adversity and more) or to book him as a conference speaker for your organization, go to http://heroicyesproductions.com/speaking-keynotes/.

Jason is a gifted school speaker and motivational youth speaker.  His inspiring presentation has moved many to tears and always leaves his audiences feeling uplifted and motivated to take action in their lives.

 

Have You Ever Been In the Middle of One Meal and Already Worried About the Next?

Pizza

This question is at the heart of so much of life.  We often feel pulled, sometimes painfully, between savoring the moment and planning for the future. As I coach people on savoring the moment, and at the same time creating their dreams, I’m still learning my own lessons on the subject.  Often these lessons come from seemingly small, comical events in my day that make good stories.

For example, my favorite grocery store has a juice bar with tables around the corner and out of sight of the juice bar.  A few weeks ago, I ordered a natural, organic juice.  This juice is the best!  I can decide what produce I want in it.  Then juice is blended right on the spot.  This is my current pinnacle of healthy eating.

After I ordered the juice, I purchased two slices of pizza from the store’s deli.  (Hey, I never claimed to be a nutrition guru!)  Then I went back to check on my juice.  The juice guy said he was working on it and would bring it out to me while I sat at the tables around the corner.

What happened after that was totally incredible!

All the while I was eating my two slices of pizza, I was wondering where my juice was.  MY MIND WAS ON THE VEGETABLE JUICE I DIDN’T HAVE, INSTEAD OF THE SCRUMPTIOUS PIZZA I WAS EATING.

Absolutely crazy!  We are talking PIZZA here.

When I get the craving to be in some future moment instead of the moment I’m currently in, all havoc is liable to break loose.  Even the taste of two slices of pizza can be dulled or ruined.  PIZZA!!!

Craving after the taste of an unknown future can destroy the sustenance of anything we might be doing in this moment, no matter how good this moment is.

And YES!  This is a lesson I seem to have to keep learning over and over again.

The complex part of this truth is that we often do need to plan for the future.  I did need to order my juice to expect to receive it.  The Juice Genie hasn’t yet read my mind and suddenly whisked me a juice right when I want it.

So I let myself get torn between PRESENT PIZZA and concern about making my future healthy and nourishing.

Do you ever feel torn in these two directions?

Maybe part of the solution, is to use some of your present moments to plan so that your future will have some order.  Then after you make your plan for your healthy and nourishing future, to return your attention fully to whatever you are presently doing, with faith that your plan will come to be.

This is sometimes easier said than done.

I’ve often done just the opposite, made a plan and then tried to worry the plan into being.  At some moments, I imagine I could write a book, “Ten Steps to Constantly Worrying About Your Future.”

It is so abundant to fully savor the moment while in the moment.

When I finished fretting my way through my pizza, I walked over to the juice bar and my juice was chock full of countless blended veggies and waiting for me.  Just as planned.

I might as well have relished the moment and the pizza.

How can you more fully be nourished by your moments and yet at the same time plan for the future?

As a coach, I help you come up with the answers to this important question that work for you.

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind motivational inspirational speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions and has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  Jason knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message and event speaker topics (employee motivation, team building skills, overcoming adversity and more) or to book him as a conference speaker for your organization, go to http://heroicyesproductions.com/speaking-keynotes/.

Jason is a gifted school speaker and motivational youth speaker.  His inspiring presentation has moved many to tears and always leaves his audiences feeling uplifted and motivated to take action in their lives.

Do You Feel Overwhelmed By Your Dreams?

Are You Going for Your Dreams, but Are Daunted by Where You Are?

In this Friday One Minute of Excitement video, Jason speaks about being daunted by how much is still ahead of you when you are following your dreams.  Maybe things aren’t going as planned, or there’s so much work involved.  Three years ago Jason filmed his first video on this same beach as a visitor before he moved to San Diego from Sioux Falls, SD.  His dreams of moving to California and starting his new career seemed so daunting.  But he did it, he took action, and he created it.  If you have a dream and are living from your heart and are taking the steps, don’t give up, just keep going.  Have the vision and know that your efforts will pay off.

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind motivational inspirational speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions and has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  Jason knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message and event speaker topics (employee motivation, team building skills, overcoming adversity and more) or to book him as a conference speaker for your organization, go to http://heroicyesproductions.com/speaking-keynotes/.

Jason is a gifted school speaker and motivational youth speaker.  His inspiring presentation has moved many to tears and always leaves his audiences feeling uplifted and motivated to take action in their lives.